At the beginning of my authoress journey, I wanted to be a New York Times bestselling author. I wrote it down in every journal I owned. Like how you practice your spelling words. Then I would practice how people would introduce me at all my Ted Talks. Introducing Ty Alexander, New York Times Best Selling Author. I even drafted an email signature for the arrival of my new best selling title.

It never came!


I quickly realized that selling books is a far different beast than actually writing books. We were planning our wedding so I didn’t have money for PR. We were moving to another state so I didn’t do a press tour. I didn’t do any speaking engagements. I thought I’d write this book and you’d buy it because… duh it’s a good book.

I was sad. I felt defeated. I was disappointed. And after of a year or so of no accolades and no list making I decided that perhaps that best seller goal was meant for another time, maybe another book.

I am extremely proud of my first book. Women across the country email me and tell me how my words have helped them during their grieving process. I’m honored to be so intimately attached to something so private for people. So those things became more valuable and more important than any list I would have made.

Ty Alexander Things I Wish I Knew


I just got an email from my publisher. I am officially a #1 Best Selling Author on Amazon.

She said, “It’s a good thing to brag every now and then.” So I’m doing just that. Also really trying to get better at celebrating myself.

Thanks to everyone who bought or gifted my book. Y’all made this happen for me and I love you.

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  1. Sara
    August 5, 2018 / 8:40 am

    I finished reading your book yesterday. Thank you for writing it. My mom died 7 months ago but next week is the anniversary of when she was admitted into the hospital. I wrote your page Your New Normal in my journal and carry it with me.

  2. Theresa Sherman
    February 6, 2019 / 2:35 pm

    Congrats on your best seller. I am looking forward to reading it. My mom passed away in August. I miss her everyday.

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