Lately I’ve been in a funk. While I always try to be blessed it’s really easy to let the troubles of your daily moves get to you. I feel like the rent is always due! And I need summer to go away because I have “free project heat” and my ConEd bill is INSANE and…didn’t I just pay my cell phone bill! UGH.
Yesterday was my good good girlfriend Danielle’s (Rhapsodani.com) birthday and instead of having a brunch where we would have spent $60 (tops), she choose to make her special day about giving back to others. She wanted to go outside, at night mind you, and feed the homeless.
I won’t lie. I read her email like four times just to process it and make sure that I was reading it right. I said to my boyfriend, “I’m so not doing that sh*t”! Like…you guys, I was really adamant about it too. I just couldn’t see why she would want to spend her birthday feeding the homeless.
But let me tell you how good my God is (don’t I sound like someone’s grandma!). As I was fixing my fingertips to type a long made up excuse to Danielle of why I couldn’t go (basically I was about to lie to my good good girlfriend) when I got an email pop-up notification in the corner of my laptop. All I saw was $1500. I immediately did a little church praise dance in my head as I clicked on the email. It was that freelancer check I had been waiting for!
The Lord loves me you guys!
And in that moment I instantly humbled myself. I am out here living, y’all! Like really living. 10 years ago when I was robbing Peter and Paul and ’em to pay all of my bills you would have not been able to convince me I wasn’t going to be broke forever.
One of my favorite quotes from Oprah is…
So I tucked all of my fears about approaching and invading the space of strangers living on the street and I did a little light beat on my face, grabbed my sneakers and headed into the city to hand out paper bag lunches to those who might have fallen on hard times.
But what if you don’t pay attention to signs. Maybe you think they are silly. Or?! What if you’re barely holding your head above a sea of problems and you just can’t seem to find your way to living a grateful life?
Here’s a few tips on how to be more grateful!
1. You have to believe in Zamunda and Unicorns!
I joke a lot about the air in Zamunda and the Unicorns that have yet to build an elevator in my building but having hope in the unknown or unseen is one key to being grateful. Without hope you aren’t able to see that there’s lots of light at the end of the tunnel.
2. Congratulate others!
Finding the joy in other people’s journeys should not only motivate you but empower you to know that you are worthy to go after your own dreams. Sometimes we think our dreams are so big that they can’t possibly be more than just that–a dream. But find someone in your space that is “doing it” (insert two snaps and a twist), study them and when they win you win. Because they are the example that it’s possible. Also know that with social media people don’t always allow you see their struggle. And the struggle is so real that it’s sold separately in a different area code from where you bought your dreams! Plus, no one tells you that you even have to buy it until you are waist deep into your dreams. So assume that that person you are envious of really worked hard to get where they are and just offer up a congrats for GP.
3. Keep a gratitude journal and read it often.
I’ve always journaled my life. I’ve written down my first kiss that I still remember like it was yesterday, when I successfully potty trained my son in a weekend and even when my mother was going through chemotherapy. But a book full of things that you are grateful for will change your perspective on how to react when you face adversity. You’ll start to see that just because you couldn’t find your keys and you were out of creamer for your coffee doesn’t mean you’re having a bad day. That those little itty bitty small hiccups in life aren’t that damn serious and usually never require the extra attention that we give to them.
4. It’s not always someone else’s fault and it could be worse!
This is something that I am working on myself. During my trip to Blogalicious I smashed my finger on a bum chair at my best friend’s house and basically shattered my entire nail. As the blood gushed out of my finger and the throbbing began, all I could think of was if Anitra wasn’t so damn impatient and just gave me two or three more seconds I could have just gotten up so she could have gone past me. But, how silly does that sound? Because Anitra controls my life when bad things happen? No! Take ownership of everything in your life. Realize that things happen and there are lessons in every moment. Find the lesson and be grateful you don’t need a new finger!
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