Over the last few months, Amber Rose has been speaking out candidly about slut-shaming on Twitter and other social media outlets. Since Amber started this campaign, there has been an outpouring of support and an equal amount of opposition for the movement.
It’s a conversation that certainly needs to be had but I think that some people are too caught up in the word slut and their views of Amber. They don’t know that the Slutwalk has its own history which is a vital part of women’s history that didn’t begin with Amber at all.
I’ve been told I’m not supposed to say this… however, women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized.
This was the statement that Toronto Police Constable Michael Sanguinetti made while addressing crime prevention. Rightfully so, this statement sent women and supporters of women’s rights into a frenzy, which is what gave life to the SlutWalk.
On April 3, 2011, the first SlutWalk was held in Toronto, Ontario, it prompted a movement of protest marches and rallies held around the world. Participants were calling for an end to rape culture and protesting against explaining or excusing rape based on a woman’s appearance.
While I am not a huge fan of Amber Rose, I must admit that she had my full support from the moment she begin using her platform to bring an end to slut-shaming. Why? Because like Amber and many other women and girls I have been slut-shamed many times and I can totally relate.
As a young girl I was victimized and treated improperly based on my body. I can remember hearing adults make excuses for men who acted inappropriate saying, “well, she is shaped like a grown woman,” never mind the fact that I was 14 years old. I can also recall my Nannie saying, “red lipstick is for whores, don’t wear it because men will think you are one,” yet another statement that suggested I was at fault for the actions of grown men.
While slut-shaming can be directly connected to rape culture, it is deeper than that. I am sure that if you beauties think back, you can recall a time in which you were a victim of slut-shaming or similar actions.
What is slut-shaming?
Cat calls happen when you were simply minding your own damn business! That guy in (or outside) the club that got mad and called you out of your name because you wouldn’t give his tired ass the time of day (in a clock shop).
The fool that assumed you were easy and desperate because you were a fat girl.
When a woman is raped, people will all agree that it is wrong but add that the woman is a stripper and I guarantee people will begin to justify the actions of the rapist.
Oh, or in high school that guy that thought he could touch your ass because you wore tight jeans…all of these are examples of slut-shaming that women and girls experience daily.
My question is, why aren’t we (women), allowed to be who we are without following rules or being judged? When did it became the victim’s burden or shame when we are not wrong?
I think that it is ridiculous that in a society filled with so many forward thinking individuals there are still some who are hustling backwards. A more recent definition of slut is a woman with the morals of a man. My question is why is it cool for a man to be a certain way but a woman gets labeled a slut? How ignorant is it to judge a person based on the clothes that they wear, their body type, sexual preference or occupation? What message are we sending our daughters; rape is wrong unless you are dressed a certain way? Why is it that women are labeled sluts for doing everything but what is the definition of a slut is (a promiscuous woman with low standards of cleanliness)? And even if a woman is a slut, does that mean that she is worthless and deserved to be treated like crap? Hell no!
I would really love for you beauties to chime in and add your two cents. Have you ever been a victim of slut-shaming? If so, what was your response? Why is society so hard on women but so accepting of men?
Sound off in the comments below!