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#TBT of when I first cut my hair off.


This post is sponsored by Cantu.


I’ve always been a girl who wanted needed to be in the “in crowd”. You know that girl with the freshest sneakers, the flyest clothes AND the dopest hair (I mean, my hair is pretty dope though!). We can blame my mother for that. She always dressed me up like we had a winter gala to attend even though we were just going to the market.

So when the natural hair movement started to reveal herself to the masses, I decided I wanted to be involved. At the time I was a budding influencer and I couldn’t see myself not being a part of something destined to be so big. Plus, that summer I had decided that it was way too hot to apply more heat to my hair. After standing in my bathroom under my vanity light sweating like a fat pig in a sauna I had had enough. It was just becoming way too unproductive for me. I would have to wait at least 30 minutes to cool down before I could put my face on. To top all of that off, once I went outside…girl, POOF! I achieved an instant attitude from the magnitude of frizz I continued to have. My relaxer was failing me, so I cut all of my hair off or as we were affectionately calling it, I did the big chop.

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#TBT Back in 2011

Like most girls with natural hair, I spent the next two years trying to figure out how to get the perfect curls only to realize two years later that there is no such thing. A wash-n-go is just that, washing and then go! I learned that my hair was a lot of things, but perfect it was not.

#TBT My 1st & last straw set

#TBT My 1st & last straw set

I’d spend hours studying women who had amazing curls wondering what product they used and how I could get their curl status.

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#TBT My 1st blow as a natural

I won’t lie to you and tell you that I’ve always embraced my hair. I’ve always loved my grey strands, but those curls are unruly and are determined to ignore every roller set I did, every flat twist that I nearly broke my wrists to do…every single style trick I tried, failed. After 6 months of my natural hair, I was putting in a lot work and money. I wanted a new look. Because what I was doing just wasn’t working.

So when I saw a tweet that Stacy London was looking for real women to feature in her new book, I submitted my pictures along with a 1500 word sob story about my hair, clothes and my career. (read about that experience here and here and here!)

& still today my curls still give me hell.

& still today my curls still give me hell.

If you’ve been following me for a while then you know that I credit Stacy as one of the reasons I am finally in New York living the life of my dreams. A life I once thought was not achievable. But in just one conversation, Stacy reminded me that I had to be my own beautiful. I was reminded that perfectly coiled curls and a fly pair of sneakers was not what defined me. That looking at others for what I thought was beautiful was absolutely absurd! Even as I type that I’m amazed that I actually believed that. But being confident and living inside your own beautiful is just as simple as saying it out loud. It’s really that simple! As women, we make things so freaking complicated. Just breathe and be fabulous. Just think about this, you are the only you there is! Isn’t that enough to be magnificently you?

So here’s to Being Your Own Beautiful! I’m screaming it to the world and to you, you are worthy. And if you need some help, start by claiming your amazingness by setting daily affirmations. You’ve got to #ThinkGorgeous in order to see how beautiful you are!

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P.S. You beauties know I am a product junkie so it wouldn’t be me if I didn’t sure with you my latest love in Cantu.

A photo posted by TY ALEXANDER (@gorgeousingrey) on

Cantu products have been a staple in my beauty closet since I was a teenager. There was this Cantu Shea Butter Sheen that I’d use. Talk about shine! I might have to bring that back to my hair routine. Anyways! This shampoo and conditioner is definitely made by Beyonce’s unicorns. And I feel like they worked hard on this formula too. It smells like the air in Zamunda. I mean, if Zamunda were a real place I imagine that the air would smell so AWESOME!


P.S.S. Be sure to enter Cantu’s Be Your Own Beautiful giveaway that will be running from 9/1/15 to 9/31/15!

Here’s how to enter:

Share what #BYOBeautiful means to you by posting photos of what makes you uniquely beautiful using the hashtag (#BYOBeautiful) and @cantubeauty for a chance to be featured and to win a deluxe gift box including the Cleansing Cream Shampoo (Ebony 2014 Award Winner), the Hydrating Cream Conditioner (Curlbox 2015 “Best Conditioner” Award winner), the Coconut Curling Cream (Naturally Curly “Best of the Best” 2013) and the Twist & Lock Gel (Naturally Curly 2015 Editor’s Choice).

There will be 6 winners. GOOD LUCK beauties!

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Disclosure: Although this post is sponsored by Cantu, you beauties know that all opinions here are my own!

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  1. September 16, 2015 / 5:23 pm

    Love your site! I colored my hair back in July because I was going to visit my family. My mom and two sisters dye their hair and they are grayer than me. I’ve decided I’m tired of keeping up with it. I want to go natural gray and natural curly. I’m sick of chemicals. I feel pressured by the world to look a certain way. I don’t want to feel that pressure anymore. I’m letting it go. Thank you for your website. You are a beautiful woman!

  2. Fay Jones
    September 16, 2015 / 10:28 pm

    Thanks Ty for this awesome article. I can relate to it in so many ways. I too have curly hair on one hand but also have straight hair as well. Yes I have two types of hair on my head. I have been natural for more than 10 years now and I can tell you; I have learned alot! I have to take this time to thank women like you who take the time out to reach out and teach. It is through blogs and Youtube videos (and some trial and error as well) that I have learned how to really take care of my hair. Keep doing what you are doing because I am listening and still learning!

  3. Jenny
    August 1, 2016 / 11:58 pm

    First time on this site. Thank you so much for info on yellowish grey hair..

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