Oh it’s slightly bittersweet to even type that headline. Never in a million years did I really think I would be able to say it. I mean, we all dream. Hell I got tons more written down. Some big and some small. But who can say they’re really going after them.

And… Especially at 35 years old. It seems like the older we get, our dreams get smaller and eventually disappear into the grown-up abyss of stability and routines.



My previous job, which you all know as my FTJ, was filled with boring routines. I worked at Baltimore City Child Support registering new cases ALL DAY from 8:47am (I was always late) to about 4:45pm. To this day, I can answer any question there is about getting your child support case started and what could or does happens next. I had worked in almost all the departments at the agency, but I had never been promoted. That’s a conversation we have to have over cocktails.

I had applied for a transfer to New York and months later still hadn’t heard anything. I woke up one June morning sweating from frustration. When I finally got to work I was so irritated. I was irritated by my cubical that held no signs of privacy, my stupid hard chair, my nagging boss, the loud folks in the kitchen… everything was annoying. I went to the bathroom, and cried. Cried silently. Then I cried loudly. I cried for about 20 minutes. When I finally got myself together I came back to my desk, got my calendar, and flipped to August. I circled August 10th, 2012 on my calendar. I stared at it for a while. I wrote it down. 8/10/12, 8/10/12, 8/10/12. Over and over and over again, I wrote it. I logged onto my computer and began to write my resignation letter. Short and sweet. Basically thank you but I’m out.

The minute I handed in my resignation I was scared. I had originally planned to save money, and all this other yadah, yadah, yadah (read that post here)! But I hadn’t really done anything but talk about it. Second thoughts ran throw my mind. But I refused to be made into a fool so I couldn’t take it back as much as I really wanted to initially. I started saving money, called my NY besties to claim a spot on her couch, and I was set.

Then in July my world crashed. A few days after the July 4th weekend, my Mother was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. My next few weeks were filled with fear, anger, uncertainty, and more importantly guilt. We prepared her living will and my plan was to just take off work, skip NY for a few months, and spend time with her. But she told me that she knew how much I wanted to move, and that I needed to move to become a great writer. She told me she was proud of me. I think it was the first time as an adult I remember her saying that. It felt amazing.

But even as an adult we still need confirmation that our decisions are the right ones. So I looked for signs that this was it. The Saturday after I quit my job I sent a text, which I now recognize was the start of this move, to a good girlfriend and fellow blogger to see if there were any contributing positions open at her job. I’m thinking if I can freelance for a few pubs I should be straight.

She replied and said that they were actually hiring and she’d forward my resume to her boss. I interviewed that Thursday and was hired on the spot. Perfect timing. I got a job as an Editorial Assistant. At the bottom of the chain of editors BUT still on the chain. I’m in NY Mon-Fri and home on the weekends because with my sudden great news I didn’t get a chance to pack. Sure I should have been packing my things in June but who really believed I was moving to New York, not me.

So what did I learn from all of this:

1. God will make things happen for you.

I don’t really speak about my spirituality much on here because it’s all about fashion and beauty on GIG. But sometimes it’s just worth typing.

2. Family is important but so it your sanity.

My family means more to me than anything. And yes I will miss them. But I will go insane staying and not conquering my dreams because life is happening. 

3. Take one day at a time and enjoy the journey.

People keep asking me, am I excited. Excited isn’t a word I would use. I’m scared as sh*t but too grateful to accept that fear in my world. I know that not many people have the courage to get out of their own way and make things happen. So I vow to suck up every bit of the journey for all the good it is.

You know I LOVE comments, so let’s talk via my comments section below!

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  1. Tafari
    September 2, 2012 / 11:31 pm

    So excited to read this. So much courage to step out there. So much!
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    • Ty Alexander
      September 3, 2012 / 12:14 am

      I have no regrets. I am THE happiest ever! xo

  2. ChasingSoul
    September 2, 2012 / 11:31 pm

    Great post. Congratulations.on your new journey!

    • Ty Alexander
      September 3, 2012 / 12:13 am

      Thanks XOXO

  3. September 2, 2012 / 11:36 pm

    Was just introduced to your blog by my sister. So happy to see doors open up for a fellow writer! This made me smile. You got it; this WILL work for you.

    • Ty Alexander
      September 3, 2012 / 12:13 am

      Hey Krish,

      Thanks for stopping by! Glad I could make you smile. XO

  4. sherrie
    September 2, 2012 / 11:44 pm

    Gonna miss you like crazy but I’m so happy and proud of you!

    • Ty Alexander
      September 3, 2012 / 12:12 am

      I can’t stay away from Bmore, my boo is here. SO I am home every weekend. At least for a few months.

  5. BmoreFab
    September 2, 2012 / 11:51 pm

    Ty, words can’t express how truly proud I am of you. I keep telling you this is only the beginning of your story, because it is. One of the easiest things to do in life is to dwell in your circumstances, but you chose to do just the opposite and that is while you’ll be successful. Stay in God’s word, keep the faith and never stop shining. <3

    • Ty Alexander
      September 3, 2012 / 12:12 am

      It’s still weird as I read it. I really appreciate the encouragement from you and other writers. It helps to know people outside of your immediate family and friends who believe in you and your dreams.


  6. September 3, 2012 / 12:04 am

    Over the moon for the new position on your life and pray continuous favor over your life. You spoke it into existence and accepted the opportunity when it was placed for you so you certainly deserve. Not everyone has the guts to follow their dreams. But that’s a glory you’ve got to be willing to work for. Cheers to you…and your new glory.
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  7. September 3, 2012 / 12:12 am

    Congrats on your new journey! Fear is one heck of a thing for real. I love to seeing that you stepped out on faith. Wishing you all the best. 🙂
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  8. September 3, 2012 / 12:45 am

    This is such an inspiring post. Congrats on your new position!

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  9. September 3, 2012 / 8:43 am

    Your story is so inspiring!!! You are very courageous & i respect that. Welcome to NYC & can’t wait to see you at the Glam Dinner!

  10. September 3, 2012 / 4:08 pm

    COngratulations and good luck to you with the start of a new job in New York! (I must admit, I’m a bit jealous ^^°). I guess it’s normal though to be not all excited but also scared at first. When I moved to Singapore for a year during my Bachelor’s the day before flying off I intently regretted, ever having chosen a more difficult route rather than passing straight through in my known environment. It turned out to be a beatiful and life changing year though, and I haven’t regretted it so far : )

  11. September 3, 2012 / 5:09 pm

    Wow, what an amazing story. First, I pray for your mom’s health. Second congrats on the new gig. Now that you are here we must do lunch or dinner soon.

  12. September 4, 2012 / 9:21 am

    Congratulations on this new chapter!! Your story is very inspiring!!

  13. Godmother
    September 4, 2012 / 10:16 am

    I’m so proud of you for taking this Leap of Faith. Remember, what God has for you is for you. Everybody doesn’t have the courage to follow their Dreams.. I will continue to pray and be there for your Mom as she battles this demon called cancer, God Is Able.. .

  14. September 4, 2012 / 11:03 am

    Congrats on taking this giant leap! I am 34 and I remember a few years ago, I think I had just turned 31 and I thought to myself, “If I haven’t accomplished anything great by now, I’m not going to.” Where did that come from? I don’t know – but I dismissed the thought as quickly as it appeared. Here’s to tackling your dreams . . . being scared and moving forward anyway!

  15. September 6, 2012 / 12:21 am

    Such an inspiration for our passionate community!! Congratulations on your successful leap to the other side of the cliff.
    Best of wishes and blessings sent your way!

  16. notmymothersfrock
    September 6, 2012 / 2:57 pm

    I love this blog article most, out of all the ones you have written. I wish you could repost it. It is very inspiring especially for a 45 year old. I’m ten years older than you are I think and I can truely say, THIS IS THE TRUTH SWEET HEART. Your dreams will disapate (hope thats spelled correctly) first child at 18, married at 20 with two children. but what this article says to me is to get off your ass at 45 and make something happen. I’m sitting here at my desk wishing I could be at some fashion show buying or doing some PR work for Ashley Stewart or my own. are maybe even speaking to young women about first impressions,and how vital they are to your careers and attracting the right men,etc. My first stage is going back to school.

    • Ty Alexander
      September 8, 2012 / 12:01 pm

      AWWH thanks lady. I love sharing my stories with you guys. You all are inspirations to me. I wanna be the same for you all. My blog is totally my mental therapy now, LMAO

  17. September 11, 2012 / 10:32 pm

    WOW!!!!!! I tried to move to New York City back in 2008 (right when the economy went South). I was back and forth in New York for the entire summer, registering with temp agencies (OMG) so many temp agencies and landed 3 really solid interviews. It never happened and unlike you I gave up when I ran out of vacation time. Thanks for sharing your story. Hopefully, one day soon I can find the courage that you did and just MOVE!
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  18. Diane Bainton
    September 16, 2012 / 3:47 pm

    I am so PROUD of you, your courage is so inspiring! All the love, prosperity, success, good health and happiness in this world is what I would send you 🙂 Peace & love Gorgeous in Grey!

  19. September 18, 2012 / 6:24 am

    hey ty–i just love this post! i’m even older than you (just turned 52) and i have to keep reminding myself that my faith is strong and that i can reach my dreams. the DEVIL IS A LIAR and he’s been having a hella fun time throwing all kinds of stuff in my way lately, but i will press on. i know it’ll all come together for me in God’s time–just gotta takes the steps that i can and let Him work out the rest! blessings to you on your new journey and keep the faith!

  20. Ayesha
    September 18, 2012 / 6:18 pm

    You are such an inspiration! Peace + Blessings + Happiness…. and tons of SUCCESS!

  21. September 22, 2012 / 8:50 pm

    *grabs a tissue to wipe my eyes* I could SO relate to this post. I’ve been there. I know that feeling of needing to “just do it” and then getting scared and having second thoughts. I also know how great it feels when everything starts to fall into place and you get confirmation that you made the right decision. I know that you will succeed in New York and I wish you nothing but the best. I will pray for you and your Mom and I can’t wait to read more updates on this new journey.
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  22. October 9, 2012 / 6:45 pm

    Congrats Ty!

    I also just handed in my resignation to pursue freelance writing full-time. It’s scary, but sometimes you just have to step out on faith.

    Good luck!
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  23. March 2, 2013 / 9:25 am

    I absolutely love this post! So inspiring…and it served as a pep talk to myself lol

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