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At 39, my hair is about 75% grey. I’ve had grey hair for what seems like most of my life. I found my very first grey when I was 14. Unlike most women who find grey to be this aging death sentence for your hair follicles, I welcomed every strand. Nearly everyone in my family has grey hair. My mom, my dad, my aunts, my uncles, my grandmother…literally, you are the stranger unicorn if you don’t have grey hair. I grew up believing that my hair was beautiful because the people around me drilled it in my head daily. “You better not dye your hair,” would be a statement I’d hear for decades. I still do.


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But not everyone believes grey hair is beautiful. In fact, have you every googled “beautiful hair”? Not only are there no women with grey hair displayed but there’s also no women of color.

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What do you see? Brunette. Straight. Wavy. Silky. Photoshopped. This is just another example of how society depicts what is beautiful to us. Experts tell us we should follow the rules. You shouldn’t have long hair past a certain age, curly hair isn’t professional, short hair isn’t feminine, Asian women shouldn’t have blonde hair, etc. The nerve, what do they know? And who are these “they” people? I say, let’s stop listening to them.

Before the Internet was created and seemingly tasked with ruining the self-esteem of millions of young girls around the globe, I was already blessed with several influential people in my life that had premature grey hair. I knew that having grey hair like mine didn’t necessarily mean that you acted or were “old.” My mother was proof. Her envious mane of silver locks was something out of an old black and white Hollywood movie. She would spend hours in the bathroom styling her tresses into the most of-the-moment looks. I remember sitting patiently on her footstool, with my arms on my chin holding up my head up as I gazed at her reflection in the mirror. Like most daughters, my mother represented my first definition of beauty. She was my icon.

Everything about the YouTube film above expresses how I feel. It’s also amplifies all the reason why we need to take back what “beautiful” means to us. It’s the reason why I love my hair and why I’ve partnered with Dove Hair on their latest social campaign, #LoveYourHair.

Dove #LoveYourHair is a new mission to broaden the definition of beautiful hair by celebrating all hair [types, textures, styles, colors] and inspiring real women to do the same.

Did you know that according to Dove Hair research only 11% of women love everything about their hair and wouldn’t change anything about it? Dove Hair is committed to curating a world of beauty that represents a source of confidence for women, not anxiety. Women should be free to do what ever they want with their hair. Whether we want to wear our hair straight, curly, grey or purple we should have the freedom to make those choices without judgment from the world.

So I challenge you (yes you with the beautiful hair) to own whatever makes you a unique beautiful. Tweet me a picture of your hair using the hashtag #LoveYourHair or you can join in the fun over on Pinterest. I can’t wait to see you! XO

While I’m partnering with Dove Hair for this post, you beauties know that all thoughts and opinions are my own. Thanks for supporting the brands that make my blog possible!


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  1. Abby
    June 21, 2016 / 2:42 pm

    You have beautiful hair, and it looks so healthy!

  2. Stephanie
    June 21, 2016 / 3:04 pm

    Ty, you are soo right! I am 48 years young and have been growing out my “wisdom highlights” for about 7 months now. I went online to find some encouragement to help me along my journey and found a few websites, but not many with grey haired women of color. How sad! I witnessed first hand at work the opinions of some who do not think grey hair is attractive. One of my coworkers even told me it was time to color my hair because my roots were showing. WHATEVER! I’m glad you posted this and I just LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your hair! Thank you!!

    • June 22, 2016 / 12:04 pm

      Congrats on “going grey”! It’s a journey that I would never trade in. Once you get to a place where all the grey is coming through and shining you’ll love it. Ignore those hater! 🙂

  3. June 22, 2016 / 9:31 pm

    Hey Ty: Yes, we here at Robustbeauty.com love grey-haired Robust Goddesses. Checkout our
    Celebration T-Shirts: Mature Robust Beauty, Senior Robust Beauty, and Robust Grandmoms Are

    You did great at CurvyCon as Panel Moderator. we love you.

  4. beaux
    June 23, 2016 / 3:45 pm

    This is such a beautiful post. It is true that when people google search any thing with the word “beautiful” in it they get a very narrow definition of what beauty actually is. I am sad to say that it is not surprising that only about 11% of women love their hair. Your hair is unique and beautiful I still haven’t gone grey yet, but it is still nice to see an article that is so positive. your blog is very interesting, after reading this article, and how positive it is, I want to follow and see more.

  5. Miche'al
    June 24, 2016 / 4:02 pm

    Love your personality and gorgeous hair. Do you blow dry it and flat iron it once a week?

    • June 26, 2016 / 10:01 am

      In the summer I find ways to keep it out of my face because..Summer. Otherwise I do a blow out & flat iron once week

      • Miche'al
        June 27, 2016 / 11:54 am

        Thank you for getting back to me!!

      • Anna Walker
        January 8, 2017 / 12:28 am

        Hello Ty, you are a bombshell!!!!!! My complexion may be very close to your and I too have 85 to 90% gray hair(almost white) @ 57. sometimes difficult to keep from yellwing. I am natural so I twist or rod set. I would like to flat iron, but unsure what products to use. Went to a salon a few months ago to have tapered cut and flat ironed (it was gorgeous) @ $100 not always affordable. please advise. Thanks again

  6. Leah
    August 19, 2016 / 10:57 am

    Oh my goodness I LOVE your hair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean LOVE it!!!!!!!!!!!! I love grey hair, and every time I get one, I always try to save it and make sure it doesn’t come out of my head (which always happens anyway?) I told my husband Im not gonna dye my hair when it turns grey, he thinks I’m crazy lol. The men in his family turn grey late (his dad is 64, and has about 5 grey hairs lol) But I don’t understand why people think it’s not beautiful. Like are these people crazy?!?!? Do they not see how fabulous your hair is???!!!!!!!!!!

    P.s Can you please please please post a picture with the ladies in your family who have grey hair, I would just love to see that ☺️

  7. Lula
    October 18, 2016 / 5:54 pm

    Hello Ty,
    I have been searching endlessly on the internet, trying to find WOC who have embraced their grey hair.
    However, sadly it is just like you said, there isn’t many at all. To my delight I ran across you and your beautiful hair as well a your refreshing personality. I love what you bring to the idea of boldly being GREY. I have been dying my grey hair for years now(too many) 😉 I’ve went natural in 2009 and have enjoyed that journey. One day I woke up and just decided that I was not going to color my hair anymore. I want to embrace my own natural grey hair, never mind what others may or may not think. I am doing this for me and me alone. Although, it has only been 2 1/2 months since i colored it, I am anxious to see what a full head of NATURAL grey hair will look like on me.
    Thank for all you do and what you bring to the “GREY” hair community.


  8. Lisa Beal
    January 8, 2017 / 10:12 pm

    Hey Ty, thanks for posting…I love your beautiful gray hair!!! and like myself at 58, I’ve been wearing my natural tresses for 8 years now after covering them up prior to my 40th birthday. It became quite expensive and I decided to just let it be, it’s part of my heritage and its actual who I am. Its a platinum color now but I’ve been having issues with yellowing lately. Can you suggest anything without turning it purple! I’d like to send you a pic…any suggestions?

  9. January 19, 2017 / 8:30 pm

    Ty! Your hair is over the top gorgeous and so are you! I am so happy I found your blog! I am 51, I colored my hair the last time a year and 2 months ago. As far as my ethnicity, I am a little bit of everything, seriously, but olive skinned. It is a torturous process to grow out dark brown hair, that is 90% gray I will tell you that much. NOW, I am discovering that it is not a simple carefree process having white/silver hair. I am having to learn all the reasons this hair turns yellow…UGH! I have narrowed it down to heat, and products. I don’t want to just treat the resulting yellow with blue or purple, I want to stop what is causing the yellow, I feel like a crazy vain person…I didn’t think I was either…hmmm. How am I going to style or tame my amazing soft shiny goofy wavy hair without heat or products??????

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