My relationship with my womanhood has been a little strained. Stressful you could say. Somewhere around year 3 of therapy, I realized that there is a lot of trauma lingering over my womanhood. I had become bitter towards the very thing that made me who I was. I was thrust into this thing called being a woman at the age of 9 when I got my menstrual cycle. Yes, I was NINE! Covered in my womanhood sprawled across my bathroom floor ashamed and embarrassed. Of course, my mother came to the rescue but the damage to my newly found ego was already done.
And it seemed like from the start of things my uterus and all her friends down there have been trying to sabotage my livelihood. Nothing about being a woman was fun for me. I wasn’t afforded the luxury of using tampons because my period has been heavy from the jump. So I’ve used Always sanitary napkins from the very beginning. I’ll admit that once a month when my menstrual cycle would arrive I would shrink a bit. I was always worried about messing up my clothes. And geez, let me never have to wear white for any occasion. If I was on my period and had to wear white, everything is canceled.
Things didn’t get any easier as a teenager. While my uterus continued on her quest to make my life a hard as possible once a month, my bladder began to betray me. I started carrying extra underwear in my backpack so that I could freshen up during the day. By the time I was finished with lunch, my pants would show evidence of my bladder’s weakness. I remember always wearing thick denim so that the leakage wouldn’t show. But I remember my embarrassment showing the most. And again I would shrink a little because of this.
Now I am armed with the facts. 1 in 3 women experience bladder leaks. 2 in 3 women who have tried bladder leak underwear avoid wearing them all together, even when they know they need them. I am definitely 1 of those 2 women. If I openly admitted that I wore leak underwear… oh boy, I can just see the memes. Y’all are so not nice sometimes.
What’s even crazier is that 88% of women say they would be more likely to wear bladder leak underwear if it looked and felt like regular underwear. And 71% of women say that they would put their bladder leak underwear in their panty drawer if it was pretty.
Insert Always Discreet Boutique.
Always Discreet Boutique is bladder leak underwear that looks (and feels) flirty and fashionable. Style was the intention for every detail, including its beautiful and sleek packaging. The design is inspired by the fashion industry and Pantone trends, with a flowery pattern that goes from the front to the back on one side. Worked on by lingerie experts and fashion designers, Always Discreet Boutique is panty drawer-worthy underwear that can be paired with a favorite bra with pride.
I’ve partnered with Always Discreet Boutique because like many other women I’ve become frustrated with the current bladder leak underwear on the market. They are on a mission to shift the perception of the bladder leak protection category through the creation of a beautifully designed product that offers maximum protection. Always Discreet Boutique is giving women like me who wear bladder leak underwear their confidence back.
Wearing Always Discreet Boutique removes the stigma around the idea that it’s just for older women. The sides and waist of the underwear have a silky smooth fabric all around to help me feel comfortable while wearing it. The inside has a superabsorbent core with unique RapidDry™ technology that absorbs leaks in seconds so I get the superior protection I need without it feeling like a diaper. The OdorLock technology helps neutralize odors instantly and continuously, and Absorbent Gel Material (AGM) helps lock the fluid deep within the core and away from your body. So you don’t feel icky and have the need to change every time an incident occurs.
Fast forward to 2018 and I am actively dealing with all my trauma. #DestinationHeal. I’m unpacking what it means to be a woman in real life. My womanhood is not measured by my struggles and challenges. The things I do for comfort don’t make me less of a woman. It’s what makes being a woman so unique and gosh darn BOSS! At 41, I love the woman I am (weak bladder and all).
Disclosure: While this post is sponsored by Always Discreet Boutique, you beauties know that all thoughts and opinions are my own. Thanks for supporting the brands that make my blog possible!